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And what that confusion has done is this: Do you agree with that statement or disagree? In the world that we live in, we get so used to the UNDO button.
The current model for dating that exists in our society is not one that has been around for hundreds and hundreds of years. The way it used to be maybe like some of our parents did in Egypt was that there was a more formal courtship: That the system of dating is something which is recent, and you know what else is recent?
What also coincides with that last years or so? There has never been a time like it is today when marriages are just so unsuccessful. That the dating model changed and the success of marriage changed?
This is how we learned how dating is supposed to be. But that model of dating needs to at least be questioned. Have marriages ever been worst?
Have divorces ever been higher? Has there ever been so much adultery outside of marriage? Forget marriage, the life of singles has been destroyed by this dating methodology as well. And even an atheist can look around at the world today and say that this model of dating is not a very very good one.
There has to be a better way to do it. Stick with the Wonder Years ways, stick with the Saved by the bell way. So before you follow that road, look at the destination. Is that where I want to be? Is that the end that I want to have in my life? There has to be a better way. There has to be a higher standard. There has to be something better than this nonsense that we see around us. And the good news is…that there is.
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The bible does have principles on relationships and especially marital relationships that we can extract out to see how this dating model should go. But do you know the hardest thing to believe? Is that God has a better plan, not for you but for ME.
That God does have better. We talk about a better path because we want a better destination. So, back to our idea, how do I find The One? All the needs that you have in life will be supported by his riches. The bank can pay all my debts really really easy. You want to know what causes problems in marriage? One of the two partners has taken their eyes off God. This promise says that God will supply all your needs, but when there are problems in marriage it usually happens where I meet the other person, I love the other person, the other person is perfect, the other person is the best, the other person is this or that and then the honeymoon finishes and then real life hits.
Your spouse is very very important, but they can at best be number two. Look at the following verse and I want you to think….
Can you say this to your spouse? No human being can give this to you, only Jesus can. Your spouse is not supposed to meet your needs, you know what your spouse is? Your spouse is the icing on the cake. This includes a higher standard on what I will wear; what I will say; the places I will go; the things I will do to attract attention to myself. Does that include relationships? That includes all your conduct, you should have a higher standard.
Game — Is it appropriate? I leave church today and I swing by the supermarket to pick up some coco pebbles or coco krispies or something like that so that I can watch the game today in peace and satisfaction as I eat 10 bowls of coco krispies as I love to do in football games. Would you like to come over to my house tonight? Would you like to come and spend the night in my house?
I am married, yes, but I will ask my wife and my child to leave and you can spend the night with me in my room. Ok, that sounds kinda sleezy kinda slimy, that sounds not good. Ok, that sounds slimy too. Sharing, secrets, opening up, emotions, I love you, I miss you, I care about you, stuff like that. None of those things are appropriate, right? Why should I not do those things with her? This is very good, this is the basics.
Those things should not take place outside of the marriage relationship. I need you guys to not be conformed to the ways of the world. Those intimacies belong only in marriage.
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Does that include married people? Does that include single people? Whether they are 20 years away from marriage or 2 days away from marriage, they are to be honoured by all is what the bible teaches us.
A word to the married people in the room: Your marriage may be going fine, but it may be subpar. You may look at your marriage today and say you know what? Things are not what they used to be.
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Something that made you on cloud 9 or walking on water or whatever it is that you wanna say. Something that made you feel you want to lay down your life for your partner. The same principle said another way is if you want something that you one time had, you must do something that you at one time did. You know why couples in marriage feel out of love? Because you stopped doing the things that made you feel loved.
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When you do loving things, you feel loving. So when you stop doing those things, what did you expect to happen? Thos flowers…guys…those flowers from giant, the 1.
What you may need is this verse: I can think of a LOT of good things for my marriage. I can think of amazing stuff that I want in life. God can do exceedingly abundantly above all that we can imagine. Take that, throw it away because God has ten thousand times greater things that he has imagined for you.
When is God going to answer this one? But I want you to think of the person that loves you most in life, not God, a physical person.
Like, if you ask them for something crazy, they would do it. The person who sorry if you had to ask someone to scratch the bottom of your foot, they would probably do it.
Sorry for the bad image there. Think of the person who would lay down their life for you who loves you more than anyone else. You guys have seen the movie Bruce Almighty? But you know what? How do feel now about this whole dating thing? Are you as nervous? Would you be as nervous? Would you be as stressed? I have asked, I got nothing. That he could have given me that candy cane, but the candy cane would have hurt me a lot more than would have helped me.
I see this very very much with the female population sometimes. Good girls that I want to punch in the face sometimes. I said the gift of submission okay? Submission submission submission submission submission. Those of you who are getting all uptight, relax. Why so defensive ladies? Why submission makes us feel so bad? Why that word turns us off? Well, you know why? You want to know the reason why? Because at your true roots you are…rebellious! Now before you turn me off completely, and start writing death threats to me, let me tell you something ladies that no other priest will tell you when it comes to the issue of rebellion and submission.
I am telling you that if you feel rebellious, and if you want to rebel, go for it man!!! Go with the flow! Just as to submit to one thing is to rebel against another. What we want to do is rebel against everything that is not pleasing to the Lord when it comes to dating and relationships, and by the flipside, submit to everything that is pleasing to the lord. We previously looked at the differences between men and women and we said that woman are more emotional than men. Women are more relational than men are.
Remember, what was man doing when relationships first started? He was dead asleep. He was sleeping then when it started and some men have been sleeping ever since when it comes to the ideas of relationships, they have been clueless ever since. Women are more relationally oriented and because of that, they are more susceptible to the lies that the devil feeds us. So you end up hurting yourself more than anything else. What we want to do today is to go on a holy rebellion.
We want to go on a holy rebellion which equals a Godly submission. Rebel against the outward beauty lie and submit to the inward beauty truth. First area we need to rebel against is the outward beauty lie and submit to the inward beauty truth. Today we must rebel against that and submit to what the word of God says. The word of God says: I think some of you know how to turn on the charm. You know how to do it.
Ladies, let me tell you something…. His brain just goes on freezer mode. His brain just dies and just becomes a dead person because charm is deceitful and some of us unfortunately know how to use that.
So guys, we gotta be stronger against that stuff!! World says outside focus, God says inside focus. You chose who you rebel against and you chose who you submit to. I wish I can just focus on my inner beauty, my outward beauty is a curse to me. You attract what vibe you put out.
So, the ones who are putting out the Godly vibe are attracting the Godly but if you are consistently time after time after time after time attracting the physical, the guy that cares nothing about the inside, the outside guy, then I have bad news for you.
You may be putting out the wrong kinda vibe. So I need everyone to ask themselves these questions…how much time do you spend investing in your outward beauty. Compare that to the time you invest in your inner beauty. Fashion today abouna Anthony is tight and skimpy and this and that. I think that when you look at the word of God, the word of God talks a lot more about dressing in modesty and acting in modesty than it does about keeping up with the fashions of the world.
Look at this verse, he speaks very specifically, take this literally…. Whoever it is, I gotta get married. I need to get married. I need a guy in my life! Now, for this particular one, I called in an expert to speak to us about this one and the expert is my lovely wife. I want to get married, I really really want a husband and kids and a dog and a fence and all that kinda stuff, but you know what God?