When I was dating someone in my congregation, we got pulled Her parents also insisted that we take seperate vehicles to drive 2 As an aside, I think it's hysterical that the Bethel dating rules mandate a chaperone in. For Jehovah's Witnesses, certain dating guidelines apply. It is especially not recommended if it means disrespecting parents, because honoring thy mother. Jehovah witness dating chaperone - Join the leader in rapport services and find a Parents always acted as i have you were raised by which is very different.
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That brother thought he had to watch out for me because my older brothers were df'd. Df'd or not my brothers could protect me just fine. I didn't need him. It was hisidea and told me I need to lighten up. I told him fine I agree but call off all the brothers harrassing me about it. This same man was the one who policed every young person in the hall. I thought it a stupid rule. My mom grew up in the "world" and dated plenty of times with no chaperone, it was the normal thing to do, and there was no trouble.
The only reason I can come up with why it was ok for her to do that is that she was 55 years old. Whereas I was a young woman still inthe "bloom" of youth. So therefore I couldn't go in a car alone with a male.
Lady Lee Ok My situation was a bit odd - no actually it was really really odd but: In my mother arranged for me to marry a new JW. Well he wasn't actually baptized yet but she pushed him to get baptized. He started coming to the meetings in Feb and by the end of June my mother made these arrangements.
We had two "dates" One was a skating party with half the cong. My mother set me up to "take care of him" The other "date" was a movie and we had to take one of my younger brothers as chaperone.
The only other time we were alone was when we went to meet a minister to perform the wedding. At that time in Quebec, JWs did not have the legal right to perform weddings. We had the legal wedding on Friday night and the JW "wedding" on the Saturday. Are you following this insanity?Jehovah's Witness Parent Demanding a Child Earn Her Love!
Friday night I was legally married. My mother would not let me go home with my new husband. I had to wait until after the JW wedding to be alone with the new husband.
After the Friday wedding the "bride" and "groom" and the best man and maid of honor went out for pizza so still not alone and then I was dropped off at my mother's home. Not that I really minded not having to be with this almost stranger. Yup from the end of Feb until the beginning of August.
Perhaps getting to know him a bit better would have been a really good idea but mom set the rules loosie I heard of a similar situation. I knew a couple who were getting married. They were to have two wedding one in Peru and one in the U.
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They brothers told them that they couldn't "BE" together until after the wedding in the U. How silly is that. They try to tell you when you can do it even after you are married?!!?!?!?! Good Girl or Bad Girl? The elders on one of my JC's told me the reason I "fell into sin" was because I had ridden in cars with male friends and no chaperones. Which is actually total bunk. The wedding ceremony itself consists of a talk given by an elder and then the reciting of vows. Weddings are supposed to be fairly simple, especially if held in a kingdom hall.
Likewise, the reception is to be modest and controlled. It is extremely unlikely that any JW in good standing would hire a wedding planner.
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In my case, we had to do things on the cheap, even though I was engaged for nine months with plenty of time to plan. Of course, I was only 17 for most of that time and had been trained not to expect much. I had two bridesmaids who also made their gowns and the male attendants wore their best suits. Once married, the JW wife is expected to be in subjection to her husband.
As you can imagine, for a modern woman with a brain in her head this is nearly impossible and requires a huge amount of self-control and self-repression. A striking example of this dynamic in action occurred when my supervisor, a JW, received permission from her superior to attend a national trade association conference in a distant city.
Of course, his fears were irrational, but she had to obey him and send someone else in her place.
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Her chagrin was obvious, but she was forced by scriptural law to knuckle under. The non-JWs in the office were astonished, and the ultimate result of this inexplicable turn of events was that the boss was diminished in the eyes of her staff.
As you can imagine, this dynamic works well only if the husband is a reasonable, loving man who follows the example of Jesus Christ.
In public, they will put on a show of submissiveness. Once that happens, while still required to be obedient to his mother, he is considered her spiritual head.