An Open Letter To The Rifle-Toting Dad Protecting His Daughter From My Son
This is one of the most difficult articles that I've written to date. In fact, before I get to the heart of the matter, I must thank my colleague, Penelope. It doesn't have to be Father's Day to appreciate and celebrate the wise words our dads have passed along to us over the years. Or heck, the. Dear Daughter of Mine,. You reached a milestone tonight. Your first date. Every dad dreads this day. And, I must admit, I am very much like.
Let's talk about jealousy, which is hands-down a definite relationship killer. Look, if a guy doesn't want to be with you then maybe, just maybe, you two are not ready or right for each other. Don't lose your mind.
The same high school junior who asks someone else to the prom could very well pursue you years later.
Don't expect sex to solidify a young relationship. It might be quite wonderful, disappointing or even disastrous in terms of expectations. If you do go that route, do it for the right reasons, not because you want to lose your virginity or make your relationship status a Facebook issue but because you want to explore your femininity and sexuality.
Enjoy the relationships while they are sending you over the moon. Of course, there is joy in being desired and pursued.
When and if the relationship goes sour, talk about it to trusted adults and friends. Do not move hastily into the next relationship. I prayed that he would find great strength in developing humility.
I prayed he would be a leader, an innovator, and an influencer for good.
I cared about his education, pushed him to dream big, and disciplined him lovingly when he started going down any wrong path. And all the while I prayed, I gave my life over to the mission of modeling true character and expecting the same from him. I taught him to clean up messes, go the extra mile, smile at others, and speak words that build others up instead of tearing them down.
For Dads of Dating Daughters
I taught him how to win with grace and lose with respect. My son is not perfect, but I have committed my life to making sure he has become an outstanding individual who will love God and love others.
He is a hard worker who loves life and is a friend to everyone. He has integrity and values women. Using words you recognize. A shout that only you can hear. Because that voice will be saying mean and hurtful things like cannot, will not and should not.
Telling you not to dream. For fear of standing out and looking foolish. And like your first date, I want you to silence that voice and listen to the music of your soul instead.
A Dad’s Letter to His Daughter on Dating Boys | Babble
The music that tells you to dance and twirl in the middle of a crowded restaurant. All eyes on you. Until you fall down dizzy. Because you will fall. Onto the cold, hard floor strewn with dirt and crumbs of cheesecake crust.
An Open Letter to Our Teen Daughters About Relationships
And when you fall, I want you to do just as you did tonight. I want you to stand right back up. And against all better judgment, I want you to pick those crumbs off your dress. Then keep right on spinning. Because it's not about the messes you make. It's about enjoying the sweetness of the journey. My daughter, always know that who you are is who you were made to be. He writes the blog The Accidental Missionarywhere this post first appeared.
- MORE IN LIFE
- Videos You May Like
- MORE IN Parenting
Follow Scott Dannemiller on Facebook: