INTJ INFP Relationships? | Truity
So here goes -- a description of some INFP male/INTJ female .. I'm currently dating an IxTJ and it does seem like it's easier for them to. An INTJ female and an INFP male being in a relationship, that is. Anyone I have never dated an INFP but I am friends with one. I could see us. The ENFJ man could be a disaster with the ENTJ woman. self in order to keep on functioning normally on the outside, like the INTJ megalomaniac, and more likely she is to run to the INFP or ENFJ man to soothe her failing self-confidence.
For one, INTJs with a history of relational difficulties can be prone to attribute those failures to psychological problems in their partners, thereby failing to see their own shortcomings.
While not necessarily their fault, this should comprise at least as much of their relational attention as trying to see and diagnose problems in their partners. To be fair, accurate self-evaluation can be a problem for all J-types, since their preferred mode of Judging Fe or Te is directed outwardly rather than inwardly.
This is one reason why typology can be so useful for INTJs, as well as other types. One of the hallmarks of Fi is a desire to preserve and defend the uniqueness of the individual. Related to a strong concern for the individual is the Fi desire to aid the weak, helpless, and marginalized of society. This is why IFPs, for instance, can often be found helping the homeless, working with children with special needs, protecting endangered species, etc.
Once we add Fi into the mix, it is not hard to see how INTJs might be attracted, even if unconsciously, to rescuing and fixing those who seem needy or helpless. The relationship then becomes a sort of psychotherapeutic forum, with the INTJ working to analyze, diagnose, and treat his wounded partner. It zeroes in on the unique features of the individual and grows deeply attached to those qualities. While INTJs may not experience the consistent strength of feeling that FP types do, they are nonetheless influenced by the less conscious workings of Fi, which helps inspire loyalty, love, and commitment.
This makes it a highly alluring function, powerful enough to inspire a fierce and protracted tug-of-war with the dominant function.
Money also relates to status, another Se-related desire. They may, for instance, feel forced to perform unfulfilling work that fails to utilize their Ni-Te gifts. Or, they may struggle when the quality of a product or accuracy of information is compromised for the sake of marketability.
INTJs also hate having to act before their intuition has prompted them to do so. All of this can make the work life of INTJs rather miserable as they struggle to find a compromise between their Ni and Se concerns. Even the idea of compromise can be loathsome to INTJs, since their idealism and perfectionism are so pronounced. This perfectionism tends to be most acute when they attempt to directly control Se outcomes, such as when making art, performing, or obsessing over money or status.
When functioning healthily in Ni, however, they rarely fall into the obsessive grip of perfectionism. With that said, pairing with an SFP rarely brings lasting satisfaction to INTJs, since, as introverts, their wholeness must come from the inside out, rather than vice-versa. INTJs may also happen upon other NJs in their work settings, especially in scientific, academic, or tech-related fields.
Overall, ENTJs may be somewhat preferable, bringing a degree of typological variety to the relationship. Used to eat it happily knowing that she tried to show love by attempting something for me she wasn't great. Should you be divorcing over money?
INTJ INFP Relationships?
After she's done blowing hers whether squandered or extra expense-basedI am the one who she expects to start spending on our necessities and her silly snack fixes. I want it, I get it. Can't get it, too bad for me. Gets in the financial hole, I naively offered to fix her finances which resulted in more squandering. It annoys me sometimes to have to be asked so many questions about things I thought she would either already understand, or would have the resourcefulness to at least research for herself.
Doesn't, and depends on my Ne for answers. I'm sure INTJs plans to 'hermet-tize' herself would include never allowing ISFJ to visit us, along with the rest of my family as previously stated in 3.
[INFP] Yet Another INFP male/INTJ female Thread: Dump Her?
No, I'm not trying to be a hypocrite. Her 'Puella-ness' has made me kill the majority of Puer-type behaviours I might have been hung up on in the past. Good for me, but still absolving herself of daily living responsibilities in this relationship.
Tied to 8as well as a self esteem issue she can't seem to separate from her herditary ailment. Personally disgusted with the way she purposely tries to cue me for "pity" these days, because I perceive her now letting her ailment debilitate her MIND. My Fi judgments see her the majority of her Fi judgments as draconian. One of the few times I really remember her telling me she loved me with enthusiasm, was when I jumped in, Fi-ed the hell out of, and won against an antagonist she was having an online debate with no, she picked the fight.
Speaking of which, this is one of the somewhat off-putting pasttimes of hers. You probably guessed that easily from 1. What's the real problem, then? She NEVER initiates, and up until the medical problems started killing our sex life, she spent a fair bit of time rejecting my advances. More unforgiving is the low-prioritizing of intimacy over TV, her phone, the internet, or anything she can try to guilt me for she believes is more valuable than scheduling physical couple intimacy.
Used the 'nice' route. Used the 'logical' route, and told her X, Y and Z were important to me. I hate that she responds to my anger the most. Ignored, or temporary change for a week. Shut down my 'passion' department, in general.
INTJ is happy with this relationship, I'm assuming because she wants to be in the wings of a dominant Fi who doesn't judge her as much other types, and gives her fallacious reason to use her tertiary Fi because "Daddy-Fi uses it better and accepts me".
I get ruffled the fact that I perceive my lesser S and T functions to be 'better' help than hers --and the cognitive tests show that I'm a classically Te klutz. How about I just tell you that as long as it does not transform into fear and pity, there shoud be some good ground left?
And her thinking she found an INTP. She doesn't seem to care it's not the case.