5 Red Flags and Blind Spots in Dating a Narcissist
And if you're dating a narcissist, red flags probably abound by now. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition that. Spotting a narcissist in the early stages of dating isn't as easy as you'd think, which is without having full-blown, clinically diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder. Below, Malkin and other experts share six red flags. Someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder may be selfish, put you may pick up on red flags that were not so easily identifiable at first.
No, this is not a man or woman who stares at themselves all day in a mirror! Narcissistic personality disorder is a real thing, a serious mental health disorder.
If you have been unfortunate enough to experience this particular manifestation of mental illness firsthand, you most likely have quite a tale to tell.
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Surviving a relationship with such a disordered person is a long, difficult process. Victims of a narcissist often end up shriveled and beaten down in spirit, and completely emotionally depleted. Individuals with NPD often seek to latch onto partners who are damaged, needy and have low self-esteem — those who the narcissist hopes will serve as a willing host for their unquenchable need for adulation.
Coming from a place of self-importance, the NPD individual will demand constant admiration while swiftly knocking down any efforts the poor victim may make to draw some attention to themselves now and then.
The narcissist will tolerate no competition — there is only room for one person on the seat of the throne. People with NPD may exhibit the following symptoms: It can be difficult for someone with NPD to ever make any significant changes in their abhorrent behavior.
Are You Dating a Narcissist? Red Flags to Watch out for
In fact, many times narcissists look wonderful on paper. They may be physically attractive, intelligent, outwardly confident and accomplished people — a 5 star dating profile, it would seem.
But beware this seemingly perfect specimen! Are you dating a narcissist? Red flags are all over the place, you just have to know where to look. Here are ten signs you may have crossed paths with a narcissist in your dating life. Narcissists believe they are superior to others and should therefore be treated as such, expecting praise and acknowledgement of their superiority.
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For narcissists, the world revolves around them. When you talk to your date, is he or she interested in getting to know you, or talk only about themselves? This is a tell-tale sign that you will feel invisible in the relationship.
If you felt invisible in your family, you might take this for granted. You could possibly feel validated by the attention you give as a good listener. Beware that this pattern will likely continue. As mentioned above, some narcissists are skilled communicators and will appear fascinated by you, even mirror your interests to make you like them.
Be aware of other signs of lack of consideration: This is revealed in their behavior and how they talk about themselves and others. Is your date a fault-finder who criticizes or blames others, the opposite sex, or an ex? One day he or she may be bashing you.
When you go out, notice how he or she treats waitresses, car hops, and vendors. Does he or she show other people respect, or act superior to other certain groups, such as minorities, immigrants, or people of less means or education?
Narcissists like to be associated with high-status people and institutions. This is due to insecurity. Does your date think only his or her school is the best, and require the best car, the best table at the best restaurant, the finest wines, and wear expensive labels, or name drop public figures they know? This may impress you, but will later depress you when you feel ignored or like a prop in their life. This trait is a give-away. A relationship with this person will be painfully one-sided, not a two-way street.
Narcissists are only interested in getting what they want and making the relationship work for them. Bragging and need for admiration.
Hence, they need constant validation, appreciation, and recognition. They seek this by bragging about themselves and their accomplishments. They may even lie or exaggerate. People who brag are trying to convince themselves and you of their greatness.