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I would think an ex who isn't over you is more likely to stay single for a while, partly in the hope that you changed your mind, if you were the one who dumped. The answer is, very likely, no and the fact that they're seeing someone else can Soon enough, your ex will start squirming, pulling away and be looking for a. If your ex started dating someone else within a week of breaking up, then it's She feels that perhaps this guy can make all her pain and the emptiness go away . But soon enough, she will realize her relationship with Garry for what it is.
She makes pathetic attempts to move the relationship faster hoping that she can gain the same level of intimacy that comes from long-term relationship.
But yet, here she is, rushing a relationship faster than a speeding bullet. The story of Jane demonstrates a classic rebound behavior.
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Eventually, Jane would breakup with Garry and will try to deal with her breakup pain. She might feel that she is in love with Garry because Garry provides her with comfort and an escape from the pain that she desires deeply. Garry is a temporary solution that is alleviating the pain, but he is not the cure. But soon enough, she will realize her relationship with Garry for what it is. She is still empty and she can only be at peace with herself when she decides to face the breakup pain.
And after they breakup with you, they start a relationship with someone who has no career and no life goals whatsoever. In some cases, your ex will choose someone who is completely opposite of you in every possible way.
This is again, very common rebound behavior. Why Do They Do This?
The reason behind this behavior is overcompensation. They think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. Someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. Someone who is not even their type. They are not thinking of a long-term relationship.
They are thinking of a short term rebound relationship which will hopefully help them get over the breakup. One of the most common indicators of this behavior is their social media profile Facebook, twitter etc.
Of course, this behavior is subjective. You know your ex better than anyone, so you are the best judge if they are doing it to rub it in your face or not.
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One of the examples of this social media behavior that I want to share came from one of my readers. She posted on his Facebook wall whether or not he wants to move to Australia with her next year when she wants to do her PhD. How can she go for some guy who has no plan for his future and could move to another country just like that? She always said she wanted someone who has some goals in life.
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First of all, which couple discusses big life decision on their Facebook wall? She clearly posted this message for her ex to see. Which shows she is not over him and is most probably in a rebound. What if they try to hide their relationship? On the other end of the spectrum, there are exes who will try to hide their new relationship from you. This is fairly uncommon and it could mean two things. After all, you know your ex and your situation better than anyone else.
If they are in a rebound, you still have to apply the no contact rule and follow the 5-step plan. If you are looking to get your ex girlfriend or ex wife back, then you should check out this article.
The good news is they rarely last, rebounds generally fall apart within months, and you know why. When your ex goes into a rebound relationship, they're not really looking for that special someone even though they may think so.
They just need help getting over you - and they think that being in another relationship will ease and speed the process. They sometimes don't know that they are not ready for another relationship either even when they think so.
Especially if they still carry so much leftover baggage from the relationship: And often they don't know that till they're in one. Usually, before too long, after the excitement of a new love passes, they start to see the little things that they don't like and different or bigger set of problems or even the same issues they had with you -only now with someone they like less- begin to pop up.
That's why such relationships unravel before too long more often than not. Soon enough, your ex will start squirming, pulling away and be looking for a way to get out of their new relationship - and, if you play your cards right, start thinking of making their way back into your arms!
And believe it or not, this was actually happening to my ex too a while back. I heard he'd been pushing her away for months and he couldn't let go of his resentment or whatever feelings he had left for me. And it seemed to be directed at her. Just like most women, she wanted progress in relationship and like most women, it was always not soon enough and there had been none.
Bottom line is If they're still angry at you, they're not over you.
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As simple as that. Love and hate are but separated by a very thin line. My take is he wasn't looking for a relationship, or at least unconsciously he wasn't. He was still in pain emotionally and he wanted to get it over with so he thought jumping into a new relationship with both feet would help him heal and be over me and our relationship sooner.
There was no chance in the world he could start with someone new while not being over me and our marriage -even though he wanted to believe and told everyone he was. Bottom line is, don't hold your breath that they will live happily ever after. The single best thing to do is to accept it, move on, be as happy and fulfilled as you can with your new life and watch their relationship run its course. Don't start fights or a "heart-to-heart" talk with their new fling or try to talk your ex out of it - both would make you look manipulative, desperate and needy.
Instead, use this time to heal after the break-up by hitting the gym, going on a trip, working on a new project, socializing with friends and generally living as normal a life as possible. When your ex's rebound relationship implodes - and it will - you can be rest assured that you can re-enter their life with a fanfare and you will look so much better to them, because at that time they begin to really think hard about you and the relationship they left behind!