There is Love in Life After an HSV Diagnosis
Personally, I wouldn't date someone with herpes. O month saying she had herpes and didnt tell him after the divorce because she hated him. I was married for 23 years and was diagnosed with HSV2 just before my divorce became final. Needless to say, I was devastated. How would I ever be able. I had met Missy on an online dating site less than a month before meeting her face-to-face. I thought maybe she'd continue after she told me this. .. about the herpes revelation) when I started dating after my divorce that I.
Now I feel that I should make up my mind to not have anymore relationships because of the mess I got myself into. I did tell the two other men that I have it, but other than that, no one else knows, nor do I want them to. I told them because I couldn't do to them what Mr.
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I felt they had a right to know what they could be getting themselves into. My life is good beyond that. The disease seems to be easing off a bit. I thank my lucky stars it wasn't anything worse. I have plenty of friends and lots to keep me busy. I enjoy life, but there is always that nagging little thought that I am missing something by not having someone in my life.
And if I am, is there any hope of finding someone with this problem that I have? One out of every five people is supposed to have this, but how do you know? It's a very lonely disease, and I am hoping others with it can share their feelings, as well as those who don't and are looking at it from the other side. If you think you're missing something by not having someone to love, then you are.
You can make up your mind to never date again, but your heart seems to be yearning for companionship. You say that herpes is a lonely disease, but you're making it far lonelier than it need be. Eight years is an awfully long time to keep a secret that is influencing your life in such important ways. You might feel less lonely if you confided in one or two very close single friends. You might even be surprised to find that they're struggling with it, too, or know someone who is.
I did a quick Google search of "Herpes Chat Rooms" and came up with 57, hits. He said we are all human and bad things happen to good people and that when the time comes for us to have sex then we will just be careful, that he truly respects me even more for being open and totally honest with… read more I have had a lot of normal and carefree sex since getting this virus.
That all it is, is a virus. I have been with many women and have never passed it along, nor have I been rejected.
What you are feeling now is normal, but the more you read about it the more you will realize how insignificant this is and you can live a normal life, including amazing sex.
is true love worth the herpes?
Comment originally… read more First off, I would like to thank everyone on this site for the helpful advice and support they have provided with all their words.
You have no idea what you do for us and what you did for me. I spent many months reading as an outsider and it was until last night I finally took the next step.
We have a very healthy sex life. Herpes does not define who u are. But to move on u have to face up to it and love yourself….
Its the precautions you take and the… read more I was of the generation that was told herpes was only contagious during an outbreak.
So I had several sexual partners some with condoms and some without and never gave it to any of them. Before I knew what viral shedding was and realized that was what the tingling feeling I was having was, we did have sex many times during this period. The only time we abstained was if I actually had an outbreak.
So yes,… read more I had H the day we were leaving for vacation. Unbeknownst to me, he was going to propose on the vacation. He was never phased by it. However, he has never contracted it, to the best of our knowledge.
I have a minor ob during my period and we normally abstain then anyways, so it works ok for us. We never use condoms. I think that is the best way to deal with it. But I started having more frequent outbreaks and so started to look for info found garlic oil!
I find too that the more I let go of being so concerned about H all the time, i relax and am less stressed out and happier in general which probably helps have less OBs!
I was so scared to tell him about because I thought he would not want to be with me. I was pleasantly surprised when after sobbing my way through telling him he held me, told me that he loved me and said that it changed nothing.
Not only did he do that but he said that we would deal with this together and that if he got it it was okay because we were going to be together forever and he would eventually get it anyway.
When I found out, I thought my world was over. I never thought I would find happiness ever again. I went through a deep depression.
I literally wanted to die. I never thought anyone would ever love me again. I figured out that some guys would have sex with me with condoms… and I just started to see sex as no longer an emotional thing. First of allit went very well. I met this woman about a month ago, we knew each other when we were teens, but surely not relevant.Guru Talk: Would You Continue To Date A Person With Herpes?
That was 30 years ago. We know what can happen when we do that. I had a feeling about the guy I was going to start dating. He seemed really upfront and valued honesty. He is in law enforcement and is very moral. I got all of this from a guy I was talking to online that I had met on a dating website. I did not know if he had HSV or not when I met him, the website was a regular free dating website.
I told him on the second date because he was easy to talk to, and I just… read more I was diagnosed with genital herpes on December 22, I was distraught with this diagnosis. The last thing I ever imagined myself getting was an STD.
We have been together for over 3 years and we have only had sex with each other. I almost passed out, I was… read more I went to the doctor, because I thought I had a bladder infection.
I ended up being diagnosed with genital herpes. I was shocked, obviously. I literally had no clue how it could have happened to me. I was diagnosed a year ago and this site helped me so much, i just wanted to return the favor with a success story… i got h from my ex-boyfriend after being with him for 3 years.
I told my current boyfriend that I had herpes — he asked me to be his girlfriend 30 minutes later. In any case, nobody but your sexual partners have to know. Of course I was devastated off the bat.
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Three months in, I met a friends friend while out for supper. She came home I told her I had it. I said no and that was that! We dated for several months and I broke it off. She even wanted to do it without a… read more I have been with my current partner for 14 years and we do not use condoms at all. My partner is well informed and has made his own choice not to worry too much about contracting H.
As far as we know he has not caught it but he may just be asymptomatic. I know it is difficult when you are not in a serious relationship but hopefully one day you will also meet someone who sees beyond the virus.
In a way, it kind of brought us closer together. After reading so much about it, it seems like such an insignificant thing to be dealing with. I wish every high school… read more So my ex fiance and I have started to rekindle things and are moving back in together. I was dreading it!! I was so surprised at how well he understood and he did not make a big deal of it. He just asked how we can be safe. It was such a good feeling to have that kind of response.