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Dating advice is the most frustrating thing ever; everyone gives conflicting Special thanks to Bishop Huish of the Ranches YSA Ward for helping write this. Tired of being asked if you're dating someone? Or stories of attending their parents' ward at Thanksgiving or Christmas (or anytime, really). Maybe you are, here is dating counsel from a YSA Bishop that every YSA Home · LDS Faith Dating advice is the most frustrating thing ever, everyone gives Special thanks to Bishop Huish of The Ranches YSA Ward for.
Mistakes will be made, feelings will be hurt, and hearts will be broken. You might try them yourself. Even though marriage is definitely the end goal, you need to put in time to get there.
I naively expected that marriage would be handed to me if I simply went on dates, and because I expected that, I made marriage far more important than getting to know the guys I dated.
I ended up dating guys who were in no way compatible or right for me. Others of you have perhaps jumped into serious relationships that did not end well because you were more concerned with getting married than actually loving the person you dated.
In this instance, you have to think of dating in terms of teaching the gospel.
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You do it by expressing love and compassion, by getting to know who they are and learning to love them. Dating, my friends, is a similar experience. You simply cannot expect marriage without being willing to put a lot of time into getting to know and love someone.
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Seek out your desire to marry, but most importantly, concern yourself with getting to know and perhaps love those you date. All good things take time. Use physical affection sparingly and meaningfully. When dating someone you really like post-mission, you may really want to hold their hand or kiss them. Please take care to limit your physical affection and analyze your motives for using it when you do.
Physical affection is a powerful way to deepen connection between two people, and without caution, too much affection and improper affection can lead to serious heartache and confusion. If you like someone, get to know them.YSA Bishop Approved Dating Tips
Get to love them. Because I started to look at it differently. The world tells women they don't need men in their lives. It tells men they can do as they please. It tells us that we are better off building our lives separately, and then perhaps coming together, if it's convenient. It tells us that fathers and mothers are not important to a successful family; that children are not necessary; that children can wait; that motherhood isn't really all that great; that marriage is actually a pain; that a life well-lived is a life lived for yourself.
When people encourage me to get married or tell me they can't wait to see who I'm going to marry, my hope is restored. When I read awesome blogs about how couples are making their marriages work or how motherhood is wonderful, it reminds me of the ideal for which I am seeking.
There is much that belittles and downplays marriage and families these days. I don't need any more of that. So thank you'to those who are relentlessly interested in whether or not I've found someone. And thank you to those who still believe in happy marriages. Thank you to those who have beautiful marriages and have shown what love really is.
Thank you to those who have struggled in their marriages, but have shown that commitment and covenants, sacrifice and selflessness, supersede prideful ambitions. Thank you to those who have seen marriages fail or had your own marriage fail, yet still propose it as one of God's greatest blessings when couples work together in righteousness.
Making the Most of Your Singles Ward
Even when dates do occur, the gossip or discomfort that follows can further discourage future dates and can even cause singles to want to leave the ward. The good news is, there are many techniques that can help singles make the most of their singles ward and can even help them find a mate.
There are many issues that can plague singles wards, and many techniques that I teach to overcome them. How to meet more people in the ward One of the biggest challenges in a singles ward is actually meeting people within the ward. Attending only meetings on Sunday will rarely make you feel more connected. Instead you need to attend ward activities too. Plus, some singles have a hard time developing relationships within large groups.
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For them small groups are best. So here is a technique that should help. Organize dinner groups or events that include new people each month. You and your friends can agree to each invite at least three to five new people from the ward to every event or activity you plan hoping for at least 15 to 20 friends.
You could also encourage your ward or volunteer to do this for your ward to set up dinner groups at various homes each month. Offer to take requests from within the ward of those who would like to meet a specific person at these dinner groups.
Make it known that efforts will be taken to avoid putting the same men and women in a follow-up dinner group so if they are interested in getting to know someone better it would be best to exchange numbers while at the event.